I always thought babies were born as blank slates and the parents molded and taught them gender roles, etc.
I had two boys. We didn't allow guns in the house. We didn't talk about them, just basically ignored their existence. The first time the oldest got some Lego blocks, he built a gun! We had plenty of toys and dolls etc, and he always went for the cars and traditionally "male" toys. We didn't encourage it, he wasn't in childcare, he was just "like that."
My best friend had two girls, the same ages. The wanted to do the girly things when they came over.
We moved away and had two girls. Meanwhile my friend had some boys. She later called and apologized for all the things she had said about my parenting. I was amazed at how different and easier girls were.
I have always been a women's libbist, and have a degree in chemistry. But I had to admit I was wrong about the blank slate idea.
My second son did have a period when his sister was born when he was inseparable from his baby doll, that he dragged around by the leg.He refused to put clothes on it, so I had to crochet a little dress directly onto the doll because I didn't like her being naked all the time.
And my older daughter insisted on climbing trees and couldn't STAND dolls. She is like me, not a girly girl at all. But the older one now has a degree in linguistics and is choosing to stay at home and raise children while her husband works. They hope to get a big horsefarm someday and work together doing tourist rides in Alaska.
Despite my women's libbist tendencies, I have LOVED being a mom and my kids are wonderful, so I must have done something right. My brother-in-law stayed home with the kids while my sister worked, and that worked for them.
The bottom line is that boys and girls ARE overall wired differently, but there is some overlap. There will always be traditionally female and male roles, but also with some overlap. The one thing we can do to really screw up society is to have quotas. The best thing to do is to encourage each person to follow their heart.
Когда мистер Хирам Б Отис, американский посол, купил Кентервилл Чейз, каждый сказал ему, что это очень глупо, потому что место преследовало.
В одиннадцать часов семья отправилась спать, и в половине случаев все огни погасли. Некоторое время спустя г-н Отис проснулся из-за шума вне его комнаты. Это звучало как металлический чанк. Он встал сразу, ударил спичку и посмотрел на время. Было ровно час. Мистер Отис был довольно спокоен. Странный шум продолжался, и он услышал звук шагов. Он надел тапочки, достал из картонной коробки маленькую бутылочку и открыл дверь. Прямо напротив него он увидел старика. Он выглядел ужасно. Глаза у него были красные, волосы были длинными и серыми, его одежда была старой и грязной, а на его запястьях и лодыжках были наручники и ржавые цепи. «Мой дорогой сэр» сказал г-н отис, «эти цепи нуждаются в смазке». здесь возьмите небольшую бутылку смазки. я оставлю его здесь для вас, и я дам вам больше, если вам это нужно. С этими словами посол положил бутылку на мраморный стол и вернулся в постель, закрыв за собой дверь.
I always thought babies were born as blank slates and the parents molded and taught them gender roles, etc.
I had two boys. We didn't allow guns in the house. We didn't talk about them, just basically ignored their existence. The first time the oldest got some Lego blocks, he built a gun! We had plenty of toys and dolls etc, and he always went for the cars and traditionally "male" toys. We didn't encourage it, he wasn't in childcare, he was just "like that."
My best friend had two girls, the same ages. The wanted to do the girly things when they came over.
We moved away and had two girls. Meanwhile my friend had some boys. She later called and apologized for all the things she had said about my parenting. I was amazed at how different and easier girls were.
I have always been a women's libbist, and have a degree in chemistry. But I had to admit I was wrong about the blank slate idea.
My second son did have a period when his sister was born when he was inseparable from his baby doll, that he dragged around by the leg.He refused to put clothes on it, so I had to crochet a little dress directly onto the doll because I didn't like her being naked all the time.
And my older daughter insisted on climbing trees and couldn't STAND dolls. She is like me, not a girly girl at all. But the older one now has a degree in linguistics and is choosing to stay at home and raise children while her husband works. They hope to get a big horsefarm someday and work together doing tourist rides in Alaska.
Despite my women's libbist tendencies, I have LOVED being a mom and my kids are wonderful, so I must have done something right. My brother-in-law stayed home with the kids while my sister worked, and that worked for them.
The bottom line is that boys and girls ARE overall wired differently, but there is some overlap. There will always be traditionally female and male roles, but also with some overlap. The one thing we can do to really screw up society is to have quotas. The best thing to do is to encourage each person to follow their heart.
В одиннадцать часов семья отправилась спать, и в половине случаев все огни погасли. Некоторое время спустя г-н Отис проснулся из-за шума вне его комнаты. Это звучало как металлический чанк. Он встал сразу, ударил спичку и посмотрел на время. Было ровно час. Мистер Отис был довольно спокоен. Странный шум продолжался, и он услышал звук шагов. Он надел тапочки, достал из картонной коробки маленькую бутылочку и открыл дверь. Прямо напротив него он увидел старика. Он выглядел ужасно. Глаза у него были красные, волосы были длинными и серыми, его одежда была старой и грязной, а на его запястьях и лодыжках были наручники и ржавые цепи. «Мой дорогой сэр» сказал г-н отис, «эти цепи нуждаются в смазке». здесь возьмите небольшую бутылку смазки. я оставлю его здесь для вас, и я дам вам больше, если вам это нужно. С этими словами посол положил бутылку на мраморный стол и вернулся в постель, закрыв за собой дверь.